Is Body Shame
Ruining Your Sex Life?
Your partner says he’s genuinely turned on by your body, but you don’t believe him. When your friends say you’re not overweight, you don’t believe them either. The obsession with the “flaws” in your body has poisoned the bedroom and instead of enjoying sex with your man, you’re more concerned about him touching those “flawed” areas — the dreaded parts of your body. How do you resolve your poor body image issues and start enjoying sex for the pleasurable experience it is? How can you stop obsessing about your weight all the time?
You’ve Started Avoiding Sex
The fear of your partner seeing the body parts you’re ashamed of has compelled you to avoid sex altogether. You keep thinking about the way your thighs looked this morning in the mirror or how your stomach looks when you see it from the side. This paralyzing self-judgment is only making you dig a deeper hole into seclusion and little to no sexual contact with your man. Your mind has officially hijacked your body and held sex for ransom. You want to have sex, but “can’t” have it because you’re too scared of what he will think about your body. How do you crawl out of this hole and start enjoying sex again? How can you stop avoiding sex every time he comes on to you. When will you stop worrying about your body and how it looks?
You’re Fixated On How You Look
The majority of women fall within a completely normal weight class, however, constant pressure from media makes them think that they’re anything but perfect. You constantly see “stick bugs with breasts” —skinny, big breasted women (how is that even possible!) so it’s natural to think that this is what all men want (hint: they don’t). From the fitness magazine your man reads to the shows he watches at night, every type of media is filled with perfect 10s, so how in the world can you compete with these women who look like they eat nothing but dust? You’re convinced that your man is secretly fantasizing about THEM when he’s having sex with YOU and it drives you crazy. How can you put an end to this doubt?
You Put Conditions On Sex
You’ve tried different solutions to improving your body image, but the problem with these ‘solutions’ is that they focus way too much on your body and how it looks. Focusing completely on your looks runs the risk of actually perpetuating the sexual dysfunction you’re trying to resolve. You keep promising yourself that you’re going to have sex “when you lose ten pounds” or when you “feel better about yourself”. This thought process has made sex conditional. How can you permanently lift restrictions from having sex and enjoy it with a positive body image? How can you stop punishing yourself for the way you look?