How to Stop Worrying About Your Body and Have Great Sex

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Is Body Shame

Ruining Your Sex Life?

Your partner says he’s genuinely turned on by your body, but you don’t believe him. When your friends say you’re not overweight, you don’t believe them either. The obsession with the “flaws” in your body has poisoned the bedroom and instead of enjoying sex with your man, you’re more concerned about him touching those flawedareas the dreaded parts of your body. How do you resolve your poor body image issues and start enjoying sex for the pleasurable experience it is? How can you stop obsessing about your weight all the time?

You’ve Started Avoiding Sex

The fear of your partner seeing the body parts you’re ashamed of has compelled you to avoid sex altogether. You keep thinking about the way your thighs looked this morning in the mirror or how your stomach looks when you see it from the side. This paralyzing self-judgment is only making you dig a deeper hole into seclusion and little to no sexual contact with your man. Your mind has officially hijacked your body and held sex for ransom. You want to have sex, but “can’t” have it because you’re too scared of what he will think about your body. How do you crawl out of this hole and start enjoying sex again? How can you stop avoiding sex every time he comes on to you. When will you stop worrying about your body and how it looks?

You’re Fixated On How You Look

The majority of women fall within a completely normal weight class, however, constant pressure from media makes them think that they’re anything but perfect. You constantly see “stick bugs with breasts” —skinny, big breasted women (how is that even possible!) so it’s natural to think that this is what all men want (hint: they don’t). From the fitness magazine your man reads to the shows he watches at night, every type of media is filled with perfect 10s, so how in the world can you compete with these women who look like they eat nothing but dust? You’re convinced that your man is secretly fantasizing about THEM when he’s having sex with YOU and it drives you crazy. How can you put an end to this doubt?

You Put Conditions On Sex

You’ve tried different solutions to improving your body image, but the problem with these ‘solutions’ is that they focus way too much on your body and how it looks. Focusing completely on your looks runs the risk of actually perpetuating the sexual dysfunction you’re trying to resolve. You keep promising yourself that you’re going to have sex “when you lose ten pounds” or when you “feel better about yourself”. This thought process has made sex conditional. How can you permanently lift restrictions from having sex and enjoy it with a positive body image? How can you stop punishing yourself for the way you look?

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What If You Could Get

Rid Of Your Body Image Issues?

You would finally change from obsessing about your body to attending to your pleasure. Imagine not going through a Defcon 5 moment when he touches your thighs or stomach. Imagine how much pleasure you would have if you were actually calm. You could focus on the soft touch of his hands on your thighs instead of worrying that they might jiggle.

You’d WANT Sex A Lot More

Body shame has depressed sexual desire. The constant thoughts in your head about your body being inadequate or imperfect have led your libido to take a nose dive, deep down into the ground. You can free yourself to be the sexual being you are by neutralizing negative thoughts. Your libido can be back to its full strength if you’re able to leave your body image issues behind.

You’d Have A Better Relationship

It’s no secret that great sex leads to an improved relationship. Science has proven time and again that good sex is a fantastic way to release pent up energy, energy which can turn into anger, frustration, and other negative emotions when left unused. The moment you start having better sex, your relationship will improve—suddenly you’ll have less fights and more love.

What You’ll Learn In My Body Image & Sex Guide


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You’ll Also Learn…

• Sex Techniques To Forget Your Body Issues. These proven techniques that will make you forget to “check” your thighs or worry about your partner seeing something you’re ashamed of.

• The Single Best Way To Lift Your Libido. Use this twenty-minute workout to dramatically improve your sexual desire. You’ll be locked, cocked, and ready to rock.

• How To Use The 25 Percent Margin Of Error In Bed. Use your inability to accurately gauge your shape and size as a powerful cudgel against your self-judgments.

• The Secret To Turning Off Your Mind In Bed. You may not realize it, but the way you’re having sex can escalate your appearance anxiety. Learn how to shut out the negative thoughts from creeping into your head during sex.

• How To Stop Freaking Out About Being Touched. Learn how to turn on your double-duty rationality when he touches a forbidden zone. You’ll start being happy that he’s touching you there instead of dreading it. No more, “Oh my god! He’s touching my belly fat”.

• The Secret To Being Good In Bed. Your sexual competence decides how confident you are about your body. If you’re able to rock his world every time you two to make love, you will start loving your body as much as he does.

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The author on the set with Greg Behrendt and Tyra Banks.

Istarted my career by syndicating a sex and relationships column all over the country and I sort of became known as the “East Coast Dan Savage.” Next thing I knew I was auditioning for a co-hosting role in a sex makeover series called The Sex Inspectors.

With the screen test cameras rolling, I remember the production chief asking me what I thought of women faking their orgasms. “That’s nothing,” I sniffed. “Men fake whole relationships.”

I got the job.

The show went on to be an international hit, airing in 12 countries, including the U.S. on HBO. It led to my biggest book yet, Sex Inspectors Master Class: How To Have An Amazing Sex Life (Penguin).

I love giving advice to people. I love to see barriers crack and humanity come to the surface. I hope I’m able to do that with Not Tonight Dear, I Feel Fat and hope you enjoy reading it as much as I did writing it.

What Are Women Just Like You Saying About This Book?

I’ve always struggled with my weight. This issue was affecting my sex life but after I read this book, I learned that sex is NOT about how much you weigh, it’s about how competent you are in bed. Thanks to the author, I feel more confident about my body because I perform better sexually.
Erin, 40
This book is very different from other content you’ll find online. It has been written with the help of psychologists and other experts, which makes their advice all the more credible. It has made a huge impact on my love life and I recommend to every woman out there.
Christine, 38
A truly effective guide to getting over your weight issues and truly enjoying sex for what it is. I was too busy focusing on the wrong things, but this book finally has opened my eyes!
Andrea, 41
The Erotic Appreciation exercise mentioned in this book was a winner for me. My husband and I have been able to communicate better not just sexually, but beyond the bedroom too. Appreciate the effort the author has made here.
Pauline, 26


Girls, you need to get your hands on this book! You’ve been having sex all wrong if you haven’t read the tips here. You’ll read it in one day like I did because it has so much useful information that you can’t stop reading.
Hillary, 31
This book was as useful to my boyfriend as it was to me. We were pleasantly surprised to see how spot on the techniques to overcoming body shame were. They really do work if you’re willing to give them a try! We have explosive sex all the time now and I never dwell on my body insecurities!
Fernanda, 44
An effortless read. Contains plenty of information on how to resolve your body image problems. I’d recommend it to women from all walks of life, regardless of what age they are.
Diane, 29
Hats off to the author. He has taken the time to discuss some highly sensitive issues that concern most women these days. It’s a practical approach to improving what you think about your body and eventually, you’ll end up having much better sex too!
Dina, 36



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