How To Use A Prostate Massager
This article on how to use a prostate massager will help you cum more and shoot farther.
If you skipped the tab “How To Relax Your Sphincter” go back and read it. This article will not make sense if you don’t.
Step 1: Gently Press Your Middle Finger Against Your Anus.
Lay on your back, spread your legs and press your lubed-up middle finger against the anal opening (you can use the index finger if you prefer, but the middle finger gives you more reach). Make sure your hand is in the palm up position (palm pointed to the ceiling). Remember, press, don’t insert.
Step 2: Inhale To A Count Of Four And Squeeze Your Sphincter Shut.
Step 3: Exhale To A Count Of Six And Release The Sphincter.
Step 4: Repeat Until You Draw In Your Entire Finger.
Step 5: Gently Probe The Anal Wall Upwards Towards Your Navel.
The prostate is located behind the anal wall in the direction of your belly button (two to four inches from the sphincter). Be careful! The prostate is very sensitive. Do not poke and prod. Caress and stroke. Press gently. Use feather-light touches. You’re looking for a walnut-sized fleshy ball hiding behind the anal wall. Finding it is a little like playing hide-and-seek, only you’re using your finger rather than your eyes.
Step 6: Find And Trace The Contours Of The Prostate.
Once you locate it, trace your finger around the gland. Take a tour. Notice where it is. Make a mental note of how far in (and up) you had to go so that you can use this memory as a GPS for the prostate massager. Ask yourself how stroking your prostate feels. Good, bad? Pleasurable? Ambivalent? Don’t judge; notice.
Can’t find your prostate or not sure if you have?
The easiest way to find your prostate is to make sure you’re sexually aroused. Your penis isn’t the only thing that gets full and erect when you get excited—so does the prostate. So much so that it bulges into the anal wall, making it very easy to find. During arousal the prostate fills with semen fluid. The closer you get to orgasm the firmer the prostate becomes and the easier it is to find and stroke.
You can also try different positions. For example, some guys have better luck laying on their left side and putting their right hand behind their back while bending the knee of the top leg.
If you still can’t find your prostate it could be that your fingers aren’t long enough. The prostate lies two to four inches into your rectum (towards your belly button). If your prostate is positioned higher than average and/or your fingers are shorter than average it can get a little tricky. That’s where prostate massagers come in.
Next: Orgasming with a prostate massager!
How To Use a Prostate Massager
If you skipped the tab labeled “How To Find Your Prostate” go back. This section will not make sense if you don’t.
You need to exert firm pressure without pushing too hard. Firm but comfortable is your goal. Start at the top of the prostate and slowly push down toward the center. Then go back up. Then start at the bottom and slowly push upwards toward the center.
Experiment with different directions to get different sensations. There’s no right or wrong way to find out what you like. Be curious and try anything as long as you do it slowly, with care. The prostate actually has two lobes. If you can detect each lobe you can take turns massaging them.
Don’t be surprised if a couple of drops of fluid come out of your penis, even if it’s not erect. This is what many doctors do to “milk” the prostate and relieve pressure in patients with enlarged prostates.
Next: Massage The Prostate While You Masturbate.
You may or may not have had an erection while exploring the prostate. It’s now time to purposefully get one. Massage the prostate as you masturbate to climax. It is quite eye opening to feel your prostate enlarge as you’re about to orgasm and then feel the entire rectum—sphincters and all—rhythmically contracting as you ejaculate.
How To Use a Prostate Massager
TIME FOR THE PROSTATE MASSAGER!
All you have to do is replace your finger with the prostate massager and repeat all the steps.
Let’s ahem, press on. Here’s how:
Step 1: Put lube on your prostate toy and your anal opening.
Step 2: Gently, but firmly press the toy against your anus.
Do not insert. Just stay here for a few moments and feel what’s happening to the external sphincter.
Step 3: Inhale as you clench your sphincter tightly.
Inhale deeply (through your nose only) to a slow count of four as you tighten your sphincter. Keep the inhalation at a steady pace. At the end of the inhalation pause for a full second.
Step 4: Relax your sphincter as you exhale, which will draw in the toy.
Remember to exhale to a count of six. You are not pushing the toy in during the exhale—your sphincter is relaxing onto it. Only go in as far as the exhale/relaxation allows. Pain is a signal you’re doing it wrong—you’re either pressing too hard or going in too fast.
Step 5: Let your sphincter get used to the presence of the toy.
Once it’s in—no matter how far—stay still. Let your sphincters adjust. Remember, the best way of getting your internal sphincter to relax is to be patient enough to let it let go. Once you get so sensitized to the feeling it’s hard to discern that anything is in there, then…
Step 6: Inhale as you clench your sphincter around the toy.
Remember, to a count of four—through your nose at a steady pace. Keep the toy pressing (but not inserting) against the clenched sphincter muscles. As you reach the end of the inhale, pause for a second, then…
Step 7: Exhale as you release the sphincter muscles, allowing them to draw in more of the toy.
Notice how much of the toy got drawn in. A lot? Great. A little? Great. See, it doesn’t matter. We’re looking for progress, any progress. Remember, if it hurts or seems like it might, BACK OFF. Pain is sign that you’re going in too fast, too deep or both. There is no such thing as going too slow.
Step 8: Lather. Rinse. Repeat.
Repeat steps 1-7 until your sphincter muscles have drawn in the whole toy down to the base. Some guys will be able to do it in the first session; others will take days if not weeks. Do not judge yourself just because it’s taking longer than you think it should. Your anatomy dictates the pace—some people just have a tighter puborectal region than others.
Take your time. If it takes you a month of daily, progressive, no-pain “draw-ins” (notice I didn’t say ‘insertions’) to stretch out your sphincter so what? That’s a small price to pay for a lifetime of pleasurable.
Is It Painful Or Different?
You signed a “No Pain Contract” not a “No New Sensations Contract.” Sometimes it’s hard to tell whether what you’re feeling is discomfort or simply a new sensation that you’ve never experienced before. If you’ve never had as much as a finger up your bum, everything is going to feel unfamiliar, but that doesn’t mean it’s painful. If you’re not sure ask yourself…
Is this painful or just unfamiliar?
If it’s painful back off. If it’s unfamiliar, relax into it. If you truly can’t tell, back off. We are in no hurry. In fact, the slower you go, the more successful you’ll be.
Once you can fully draw in (notice I didn’t say insert) the toy into your rectum without any pain, it’s time to experiment with different types of stimulation.
And at that point it’s only a matter of time before the waters swell and your richly deserved tsunami of semen springs forth.