It goes without saying that men will receive pleasure during a blowjob and yes, of course, you will experience the “pleasure of pleasuring,” but I want you to be a little more selfish than that.
I want you to approach blowjobs as if they were meant to give YOU pleasure. Think of his satisfaction as an important marker of your efforts but more as “collateral pleasure”—something he gets as a consequence of pleasuring yourself.
One of the best ways of enhancing your own satisfaction during blowjobs is to become really good at giving them. Competence breeds confidence which enhances self-pleasure.
As some women plainly understand, confidence significantly increases your enjoyment of giving a good blow job. There’s only one way to gain confidence and that’s to earn it through competence. That’s why we are going to concentrate on improving your skills in this post.
Giving A Good Blow Job
Let me start by reminding you that we men are alarmingly attached to our penises. In fact, we love listening to “He’s Got the Whole World in His Hands” when we pee. With the right kind of oral you can make your partner feel like he’s got the whole galaxy in his hands.
Sending him into that galaxy requires four blowjob tricks: moisture, speed, pressure, and friction. Success starts with saliva. The most natural way of generating it is to bite into a sour apple or suck on a hard candy. Go ahead and buy some at the store. I’ll wait.
Back so soon? Good, now bite into the sour apple. Notice how it makes you drool? It’s your body’s way of fighting off the acidity in the mouth (the saliva dilutes it). Of course, that’s hard to do in the middle of unzipping him, so try this instead:
Visualize biting into a lemon. Do it right now.
Concentrate on the citric juices hitting your tongue and the sides of your mouth. Notice anything? You’re salivating more! Conjure up that vision whenever your mouth starts getting dry during oral.
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Your hand is the next most important thing. You need to deliver three things with it: friction, pressure, and speed. Use your hand as an extension of your mouth.
Do this: Make a fist and punch yourself in the chest. Your knuckles should be touching your chest, with your thumb facing toward you. That’s your starting position. With your hand in that position, twist/stroke on the way down and stroke/twist on the way up.
You’re basically doing a corkscrew motion as you wet him with a constant stream of saliva. Your mouth may give him moisture and heat, but it doesn’t give him pressure and friction. That’s what the hand is for.
If you can get these basics down—moisture with your mouth and speed, pressure, and friction with your hand—you’re well on your way to mastery. Then it’s a matter of add-ons, like pretending there’s oxygen in his balls and making so many sex sounds the neighbors pull out their binoculars.
Now that you’ve got the big picture of bestowing a bedazzling blowjob let’s dive into the details.
More On Moisture. Having a warm, wet, moist mouth is the single most important aspect of giving good head. It will send him to Mars and back on a discount ticket. This can be problematic for some women as not everybody has a mouth moist enough to launch interplanetary trips.
How Much Saliva Does Your Mouth Make In A Day?
Brace yourself: 32 to 64 ounces! Think about that the next time you grab a half-gallon container of milk—that’s about how much saliva you produce in a 24-hour period.
Why so much? The slippery stuff — which is made mostly from water — breaks down food with special enzymes for easier digestion and lubricates food for easier passage down your throat.
Ever wonder why you wake up with breath so bad your dentist will only treat you over the phone? Because saliva production goes down to nearly zero when you’re asleep, allowing odor-causing bacteria to build up.
Without a wet mouth, your lips tend to “tug” on a guy’s skin rather than glide along, and you won’t make it too far down the shaft before he expresses his discomfort. So, in addition to visualizing biting into a lemon, here are a few tips to keeping a mouth so moist “Richard” will think he’s in a tropical rain forest:
- Drink Water. While staying hydrated may seem like a no-brainer when it comes to maintaining a wet mouth, it’s something most people don’t think about. If you know you’re going to be giving your man head soon, start lubricating your mouth with water a few hours beforehand.
- Chew Gum. Get your salivary glands warmed up before you go down by chewing a piece of gum. It fools the brain with a signal that you’re about to ingest food. Your mouth automatically starts moisturizing for what it thinks is the passage and digestion of food. Boy, is it in for a surprise!
The gum should have sugar in it, as there is a 10-fold increase in the flow rate of saliva when a sweetness or flavor is added to gum, according to the magazine Dentistry Today. It also has the ability to keep you three times wetter after you stop chewing. If you want to stay away from sugar look for gums with xylitol, which studies shows is an effective way of producing saliva.
- Use Toothpaste And Dental Rinses That Contain Xylitol. If chewing gum right before having sex gives you a trailer park vibe you’d rather avoid, then brush and rinse your teeth with products that contain Xylitol, which is clinically proven to produce more saliva.
- Suck On Hard Candy Before Sex. You’ll feel your gums glisten as pools of saliva form under your tongue.
- Yawn And Gleek. Remember spitballs? You wet a small, balled up piece of paper in your mouth and spit the projectile out to some schmuck? Yeah, me neither. Today it’s called “gleeking,” although without the paper.
To gleek, open your mouth as wide as you can, then touch your tongue to the roof of your mouth. Maintain this pose while you take a deep breath in and it will trick your mouth into yawning, which activates the saliva glands in your cheeks and underneath your tongue.
In gleeking, the goal is to keep your tongue against the roof of your mouth, inhale and then spit with a forceful exhale that propels saliva from under your tongue. But you can skip that step and save the spit for the job ahead.
Use these tricks to turn your mouth into a virtual rain forest, and you’ll be able to glide your lips from head to base, smoother than Tarzan swinging on vines.
In the next post, we’ll learn about the single most important ingredient in memorable, mind-blowing sex. In the meantime, 9 myths about blowjobs busted.
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